From the beginning - in the Garden of Eden, to our country's origination and deep into our own family systems, we are a boundary violating culture. The outcries due to racism and sexism that have been brought further into the light in this country are because of boundary violations. If the Covid virus can travel and make it into every country, so can other pandemics.
Have you learned anything new about yourself in 2020? If so, I'd love to hear about it! As for me, I'm learning more about who my Creator made me to be and what it means to live a fulfilling life. I no longer feel the need to adjust myself to fit the mold of others. That kind of living is a detriment to human flourishing.
When was the last time you engaged in a conversation that ended up going south? In the midst of so much polarization, it's easy to do these days. I'm slowly learning the importance of engaging in healthy dialogue, rather than entering into a heated debate.
At the end of 2019, I chose the word surrender as my focus for the coming year. Little did I know how much I would learn about letting go. I had just walked away from a job I deeply loved and entered into a season of grief.
I was about 25 when I first learned the concept of boundaries. It was after reading the book Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. But I didn't make it much further than awareness. I didn't know how to apply boundaries to my life. As a child, I learned other strategies to keep myself safe by hiding my feelings, trying hard to just be good and people-pleasing.
I’d like to believe I’ve already come to terms with my imperfect self. I mean come on, I am going to be 40 soon. I feel pretty decent in my own skin–except I prefer to keep things on, thank you very much. I don’t particularly like to be reminded of my flaws.